Why I Created A Self-Love Community For Women (and how you can start learning to love yourself better too)
Lanise James, Founder of Self Love Community, Michigan, USA
My Self-Love Story:
Do you ever feel like you are not enough? Perhaps you feel like that you have to do anything and everything for others to love you—even like you. I was this person for most of my life. During my childhood, I always wanted to fit in with others. And as a young adult, I spent many years in unhealthy and toxic relationships. It wasn’t until recently (2 years ago to be exact) that I finally knew it was time to start learning how to love myself better!
When I first started my self-love journey, I didn’t even know what self-love was! I couldn’t give you a working definition of the word. Self-Love was like a foreign idea to me. I knew how to give love to others, that came quite natural to me. Yet, what was all this talk about “self-love”?
Ironically, self-love would become an act of personal freedom; bringing hope and promise of a new future for my life!
So, what is self-love? Self-love is not being “self-centered” or selfish—there’s a difference. Self-Love is the practice by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being while still respecting others well-being.
SelfLove - A Community is Born:
“The only person who can change your life is the one looking back at you.” - Loveselfme
I was on my morning walk—a beautiful sunny day in the fall of 2014. I was unemployed and feeling very frustrated with the current state of my life. Enjoying the sunshine and pondering my next move. I said aloud (in a loving whisper) to myself,“I want to start loving myself.” I would like to think it was divine inspiration—at least that’s what I’ve been telling people. :-)
I continued on my walk to my local Starbucks and created a Twitter Page. My plan was to share Tweets about my self-love journey and to have a way to track my progress. I initially wanted a twitter name using the word self-love. However, I discovered that there were many other women already online sharing the art of self-love (this would prove to be very helpful to me later). Many of the users names using self-love were sadly taken! So, with a little play on words I created the user name (loveselfme). I really didn’t like this name at first. Yet, I have grown to Love it! It really speaks to my heart—Loveselfme!
Now, back to what I was saying about the many women, experts and coaching that were already on twitter sharing great self-love inspiration. I was so inspire to learn more about how to start my self-love journey. I retweeted…and retweeted all that inspired me. Posts, content and photos…if it inspired me, I shared it on my timeline! Eventually, most of my tweets were less about me and more about sharing awesome self-love inspiration for other women to enjoy!
I had another great idea (divine inspiration at work again)! I realize that there was a need for many Women (just like myself) to learn how to start loving themselves as well. What better way for women to learn self-love than with the support of a community to help them thrive and grow. In turn, I quickly changed the name to SelfLove - A Community (SLC)! Creating a self-love tribe for Women!
The Future Of Self-Love - A Community (SLC):
“Learning to Love Yourself Never Felt Better.” - Loveselfme
This self-love community has been a source of inspiration and guidance for me! My self-love journey is not perfect, and sometimes I don’t always make the best decisions for myself. Yet, I still celebrate myself because I’ve made a choice to start—and continue my journey!
Where will my self-love journey end? I’m learning that it’s a continuos perfecting process. There will always be a need for me to practice self-love—everyday! I have accepted my own personal self-love journey as a never-ending love story—with SLC growing and inspiring more…and more women to do the same!
How To Start Loving Yourself Better:
“To Love Others, You Must Love Yourself First.” - Loveselfme
Learning to love yourself is going to be your biggest accomplishment in life. It’s what I believe is the key that will unlock the doors to all other Happiness in your life. Here’s 3 ways you can start learning to love yourself better today!
About Lanise James
Lanise is a teacher, writer and self-love advocate from Michigan (USA). She loves encouraging and inspiring others. She created a self-love community for women to help them learn to love themselves mentally, spiritually and physically. This month The #Loveselfme tribe is celebrating its 2nd year of self-love service for women! They are all so excited!